We go there to visit because we miss them so much but they are not there. They are with God. We should cry our tears not for them for they are in heavenly bliss with no pain or anguish but in God’s favor. We cry our tears because it hurts to miss them so much. It is healthy to cry, to grieve, to mourn and go through it but always remember they are not there they are with God. In that take comfort my friends.