{"id":1219,"date":"2009-10-09T07:00:58","date_gmt":"2009-10-09T11:00:58","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/faithfilledmom.com\/?p=1219"},"modified":"2009-11-01T09:08:20","modified_gmt":"2009-11-01T13:08:20","slug":"behind-the-fence-october-9-daily-reflection","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/faithfilledmom.com\/behind-the-fence-october-9-daily-reflection\/","title":{"rendered":"Behind the Fence, October 9 Daily Reflection"},"content":{"rendered":"
\"Jake

Jake peeking through the fence.<\/p><\/div>\n

Blue skies, cotton candy clouds, sun beams catching the brightest green\u00a0shades\u00a0of grass with the dew dripping down their blades, a peaceful farm lay in wait. Eighty pounding little preschool shoes blasted across the dew soaked blades crushing them in frantic race to find the hidden pumpkins.\u00a0 Screams of delight shouted across the open fields of the little pumpkin farm each time a 4 year old found a tiny orange treasure.\u00a0 Jake’s first field trip ever to a pumpkin farm was unforgettable.\u00a0 Here he stands behind the fence showing off his newly discovered pumpkin. He can be partially seen but not completely noticed. He stands in the shadow of the fence with a look of concern upon his innocent face.<\/p>\n

How often do we as moms know that our children are in the room with us we hear them but don’t listen?\u00a0 How often are we asked a hundred questions while we are fixing dinner, doing laundry or scrubbing the bathroom floor but by the 5th question we just zone out?\u00a0 How many of we moms try to answer the questions in the car but are distracted and just want to hear the lyrics of our favorite song for once?\u00a0 How often do we look directly at our children and see Jake in the picture, we see just part of our child because the rest is in the shadows hidden by our busy lives?\u00a0 Do we even see the concern in our children’s eyes?\u00a0 We have so many other tasks, jobs and priorities that take us far from our children even when we are standing right by their side.<\/p>\n

As moms\u00a0do not consider it neglect.\u00a0\u00a0Consider it living a life that is too busy for one person to live but we know no other way.\u00a0 As moms we multi task which means something is going to miss out.\u00a0 I personally do it way too much and I stay at home with my children.\u00a0 You would think a stay at home mom would have much more time to concentrate on their children.\u00a0 In some ways we do, quantity the amount of time we spend with our children is enormous because we are physically with them but not always mentally.\u00a0<\/p>\n

Looking at this picture pulled at my heart and made me consider next year I will not have the quantity of the time any more, he will be in kindergarten.\u00a0\u00a0Everytime I\u00a0come to this\u00a0realization I drop things and swoop him up into my arms and hold him so tightly.\u00a0 The other day I dropped all I had to do and snuggled and read stories with him for 40 minutes.\u00a0 It was heaven on earth to leave the laundry in the washing machine, the emails unchecked, the phone unanswered, the floor not\u00a0swept because I was\u00a0snuggling my little Jake!\u00a0<\/p>\n

\u00a0Our lives are so full, so busy, so fast paced that most of the time we don’t have time to pause long enough to\u00a0really listen.\u00a0 To listen\u00a0to the 18th\u00a0question from our children instead we just give a brief explanation and move on, but that could have been a moment.\u00a0 So how do we slow down?<\/p>\n

We can always carve out some time from our day and\u00a0 promise ourselves we will give to our children without interruption.\u00a0 My time is bedtime, lunchtime and dinnertime.\u00a0 We schedule all our appointments in advance Doctor visits, meetings, conferences.\u00a0 We schedule dates with our spouses.\u00a0 We schedule\u00a0our entire weekend with fun events and sports etc.\u00a0 Why can’t we schedule time with our children?\u00a0\u00a0Our children no doubt are more important than it all.\u00a0<\/p>\n

Today look at your schedule and see where you can fit\u00a0them in.\u00a0 Then when all the noise from the day has faded away and you are in a place with them without interruption take the time to snuggle, listen, \u00a0answer questions and just be with your entire child.\u00a0 Give your child time to show you who is in the shadow behind the fence.\u00a0 Our children just want to be seen completely, loved entirely and\u00a0as moms that is truly what we want to do.\u00a0<\/p>\n

So stop feeling guilty and schedule time with your children daily to let them just be with you, don’t go out on the town with distractions.\u00a0 Just be home with each other, just be together.\u00a0\u00a0Hold your child’s hand, lead him out from\u00a0behind the fence and let yourself have the time he\u00a0deserves to be loved by his favorite person in the world to him YOU his MOM.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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