{"id":1293,"date":"2009-10-12T07:00:21","date_gmt":"2009-10-12T11:00:21","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/faithfilledmom.com\/?p=1293"},"modified":"2009-10-13T08:38:21","modified_gmt":"2009-10-13T12:38:21","slug":"chapter-15-is-our-identity-integrated-with-our-career-or-is-our-career-our-identity","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/faithfilledmom.com\/chapter-15-is-our-identity-integrated-with-our-career-or-is-our-career-our-identity\/","title":{"rendered":"Chapter 15, Is our identity integrated with our career or is our career our identity"},"content":{"rendered":"

“Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.”<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Philippians 3: 14<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

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Like the dolls there are so many facets of who a mom really is.<\/p><\/div>\n

Hey God, It’s me Lori,<\/em><\/p>\n

Am I just a mom or do I have a purpose that encompasses mom and so much more that you have planned for me to do for you?<\/em><\/p>\n

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Is our identity integrated with our career or is our career our identity…<\/strong><\/p>\n

Am I\u00a0“Just a Mom” or am I more than that?\u00a0 Have you ever noticed when you are at a party or social gathering after you are introduced to someone the first question asked is “What do you do?”\u00a0 It probably all started because you want a starting point for a conversation what better way to get to know someone than to find out what they do then you can find points of similar interest.\u00a0 Well in this modern day in our society it has become more than a way to get to know a person it has become that person.\u00a0 Many people can relate to this.\u00a0 Is what you do who you are?\u00a0 The majority of our society is raised to believe that what we do is who we are.\u00a0\u00a0That your value is based on your career.\u00a0 If you don’t think so just think about this for a minute how often did you hear growing up “What do you want to be when you grow up?”\u00a0 How many of us were asked, “What type of person do you want to become?”\u00a0\u00a0 “What do you think God is calling you to do with your life?”\u00a0 “What talents do you feel God has graced you with and how will you use them to better this world?”\u00a0 Nope what we heard and most likely what we ask our children, teenagers and young adults is “What do you want to be when you grow up?”<\/p>\n

It is definitely important that we lead our children in the right direction; often the parent’s directions are the cornerstone of a child’s understanding of reality.\u00a0 What parent wants their child to suffer or be poor?\u00a0 We want our children to have good lives and to contribute to society.\u00a0 So at a young age we start to prep them by asking questions and we help them to discern what we as parents believe they would be good at doing as a career.\u00a0 Some parents, \u00a0I feel sure, have a plan that has nothing to do with that child they just want to have a doctor for a son or a daughter.\u00a0 However, I think the normal middle class parent wants their children to be happy with the choice they make for a career after all here in America our children will spend far more time at\u00a0 work on their career than they will with their families.\u00a0 America’s workforce is tireless.\u00a0 The more hours you put in the more respect and money you receive for it.\u00a0 If you think about it that way then one’s career does define the person’s life.\u00a0 That is where most spend almost all their waking hours.<\/p>\n

Maybe if we as parents changed just a little of our guidance for our children it would help to cultivate a new mindset that could change our society one person at a time.\u00a0 What if we asked our children instead “What talents do you think God gave you and how would you like to share them with the world to make it a better place?”\u00a0 Suddenly you take away the taught need for greed and give them a need to make the world a better place.\u00a0 Instead of saying what do you want you say what can you Share<\/em>.\u00a0 Instead of it being just something they choose for no real reason it is a calling<\/em> that God has graced them with.\u00a0 Maybe that is the essential way to give purpose to a life so that when they get to be our age they are not searching, scrambling and wondering, “What on earth is my purpose?”\u00a0 Maybe at a young age they will decide that giving is what will feed their souls instead of accumulating life’s material goods.\u00a0 Maybe they will live a more meaningful life than us.<\/p>\n

What do you want for your child?\u00a0 Do you want them to be exactly where you are today?\u00a0 That is a hard question. Every one of you reading this will answer it differently.\u00a0 Some of us cannot answer it until we know what we want and why we want it.<\/p>\n

I want for my children to be filled with gratitude for the life God has breathed into their growing bodies and to respect it.\u00a0 I want for my children to give all that they are to others through whatever talents God has graced them with.\u00a0 I do not want my children to be rich by our society’s standards of wealth and material possessions.\u00a0 I want their needs to be meet and that they are comfortable with their surroundings but not immersed in things.\u00a0 I want my children to have a strong and clear faith in God, for Him to be their friend that they can always talk to each day and rely on.\u00a0 I want them to love others with mercy, compassion and respect for all people.\u00a0 I want them to be the Body of Christ; for their hands to do His work for others to see Christ in their eyes through their actions and thoughtful ways.\u00a0 The success of my children has nothing to do with the success of our secular world.<\/em>\u00a0 Yes, I want them to go to college, get a degree, to support and be able to raise a family and have a good paying job that will provide.\u00a0 I want faith, charity and love to be the center of it all.<\/p>\n

Am I asking too much of their future?\u00a0 I don’t think so!\u00a0 Will they turn out that way?\u00a0 If the way you raise your children and the example you set and the surroundings they are in effect the outcome they have a great shot at it.\u00a0 I tell my children my hopes and dreams for them.\u00a0 I pray out loud to God like I am talking to a friend with them.\u00a0 At parent teacher conferences I tell the teacher I am happy that their grades are good and then I tell that teacher looking straight in their eyes that what matters most to me is that my child is good to others and seems to be following Christ’s example by being kind, thoughtful and helpful to others.\u00a0 Every time I do it I think it shocks the teacher but that is what matters most to me.\u00a0 Each time it enters my child’s mind that it is important because I state this in front of an authority figure outside our private home.\u00a0 Because to me it’s not private.\u00a0 Who they are is formed everywhere they go and by everyone they know.\u00a0 I want my children exposed to different walks of life so they can have compassion and respect no matter the social status, homeless, hungry, elderly, disabled, the sick. Jesus taught us to love our neighbor everyone of them like we love ourselves and I take that responsibility very seriously to teach it to my children.<\/p>\n

I am so far from perfect it’s not even funny.\u00a0 I have so many flaws and my children know them better than anyone else.\u00a0 I yell too much.\u00a0 I lose my patience and I get mad.\u00a0 My children know that I am there no matter what and they know I would lay my life down for them.\u00a0 They know what I am teaching them is the truth and they trust that I would never guide them in the wrong direction.<\/p>\n

Each child knows these things about their parents.\u00a0 It is the parent’s responsibility in life to decide on how they will lead that child.\u00a0 So much of what we do, what we say, how we say it and what we don’t say or do influences that child for a lifetime.\u00a0 Therefore, we need to reflect long and hard on what we want to teach our children.\u00a0 Then we need to make sure that our actions reflect our words and beliefs.<\/p>\n

So what do you want for your children?\u00a0 Do you want your children to be “successful” in our world, to be rich in material possessions?\u00a0 To have that top paying job that consumes their life and becomes who they are?\u00a0 Does your job consume your life?\u00a0 What example are you teaching your children?\u00a0 Our children are watching us and learning by our example, it’s not what you say as much as what you do!\u00a0 Take some time to reflect on your career does it define you or is it just a part of who you are?\u00a0 What do you want for your child?\u00a0 Only you can answer those questions…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

“Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.” Philippians 3: 14 \u00a0 \u00a0 Hey God, It’s me Lori, Am I just a mom or do I have a purpose that encompasses mom and so much more that you have planned for me to do for you? \u00a0 Is our identity integrated with our career or is our career our identity… Am I\u00a0“Just a Mom” or am I more than that?\u00a0 Have you ever noticed when you are at a <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":1332,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[61],"tags":[249,24,301,22,300,53,35],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/faithfilledmom.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1293"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/faithfilledmom.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/faithfilledmom.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/faithfilledmom.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/faithfilledmom.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1293"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/faithfilledmom.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1293\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/faithfilledmom.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/1332"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/faithfilledmom.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1293"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/faithfilledmom.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1293"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/faithfilledmom.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1293"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}