{"id":2086,"date":"2010-01-08T05:00:08","date_gmt":"2010-01-08T10:00:08","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/faithfilledmom.com\/?p=2086"},"modified":"2010-01-08T18:28:49","modified_gmt":"2010-01-08T23:28:49","slug":"keeping-score-january-8-daily-reflection","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/faithfilledmom.com\/keeping-score-january-8-daily-reflection\/","title":{"rendered":"Keeping Score January 8 Daily Reflection"},"content":{"rendered":"
\"Spencer

Spencer pretending like he is keeping score<\/p><\/div>\n

How often do we keep score in our lives?\u00a0 Well, as women don’t you think someone must have carried a gene for keeping score? When it comes to how many times we have been wronged by others? When we get into arguments with our husbands, boyfriends or significant others can’t we name every time they made that bad choice before?\u00a0 It drives my husband crazy that I have such a great memory and can site everything he has done wrong!\u00a0 But should we be like that as women?\u00a0 Does that memory and score keeping limit our love?\u00a0<\/p>\n

Every time I write a card out for a wedding I always write the following “The secret to a good, healthy and long lasting marriage\u00a0is loving selflessly, not in theory but in action.\u00a0 You take care of his needs and he will take care of your needs.”\u00a0 That concept is so foreign to our culture now, when it is all about me, me, and me.\u00a0\u00a0Many people are scared of attempting that method of selfless love because they feel they need to protect themselves.\u00a0 But as a mom do you think of yourself and your needs first daily or do you think about what your child needs first?\u00a0 You are probably saying to yourself that is because they are children and you are responsible for their well being.\u00a0 Your spouse is a grown adult responsible for his own life. That is true.\u00a0 However, when we made our vows it was to love through sickness and health, rich or poor, forsaking all others until death do we part.\u00a0 I think we underestimate the power of the word love.<\/p>\n

Love is not the infatuation period of a relationship when you have butterflies and uncontrollable passion for the other person. Love is not when you want to be next to them and with them 24 hours a day.\u00a0 Love is the reality after that glow has faded and you want to be with that person for a lifetime, not to make your every desire a reality but to share your existence.\u00a0\u00a0Love is standing by that person on the best days of their life and holding their hand on the worse days. Love is accepting that person\u2019s faults, strengths and everything in between. Love is not about keeping score and being better than the other person. Love is forgiving and letting the wrongs done to you go. Love is sharing who you are. Love is\u00a0opening yourself up becoming completely vulnerable to another person that you trust with your life.\u00a0<\/p>\n

We as moms know true love, unconditional love for our children.\u00a0How many of us have that type of love for our spouse?\u00a0 How many of us should have that type of love for our spouse?\u00a0 When you are being kind and giving it is difficult for someone else to treat you poorly.\u00a0 When you truly love someone else, especially your spouse, the person you have trusted with your life and your very being, it is difficult for that person to not love you in turn how you love them.\u00a0 We set the example for our spouse, how to love by the way we love them.\u00a0 We need to learn how to let go of the scoreboard, drop it and let shatter upon the ground.\u00a0 Because the love we have for our spouse should be true love that gives selflessly for a life time.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

How often do you get into an argument with your spouse and bring up things they have done wrong in the past? Do you keep score? What wife doesn’t do this?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":2085,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[1],"tags":[53,436,437],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/faithfilledmom.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2086"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/faithfilledmom.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/faithfilledmom.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/faithfilledmom.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/faithfilledmom.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2086"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/faithfilledmom.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2086\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/faithfilledmom.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/2085"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/faithfilledmom.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2086"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/faithfilledmom.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2086"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/faithfilledmom.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2086"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}